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What Factors to Consider When Choosing a Marriage Therapist

The decision to seek help from a marriage therapist is never easy for couples.  It often comes at a time when your relationship is most vulnerable and at risk.  Therefore, it is important to choose your marriage therapist wisely in order to have the best, most successful experience possible.  Here at Proliance Center, we value certain criteria in our marriage therapists to ensure that you received the highest quality care.  Some of these factors include education, experience, personality, professionalism, and empathy for others.  In addition to these factors, there may be other criteria to consider that will make your experience not only better, but more personalized.

It may not seem important, when the survival of your marriage is at stake, but convenience can often play a significant role in you and your partner’s experience in seeing a marriage therapist.  Issues to consider may include proximity, ease of scheduling, cost, or comfort within the office setting.  All too often, couples may decide to terminate therapy too early because it is no longer convenient.  When you take these issues into consideration before choosing your marriage therapist and plan ahead, you are less likely to terminate too soon for the wrong reasons, therefore having a more successful experience in the end.  At Proliance Center, we work with you to provide the most convenient and comfortable experience possible by providing you with a centralized location, a variety of scheduling options and a comfortable, private setting.

Reputation is another important factor in choosing a marriage therapist.  Take the time to ask around among trusted friends, family members, or professionals for recommendations.  When someone you know has had a successful experience with a particular marriage therapist, that recommendation often holds more weight than a review read online or in an advertisement seen in the newspaper.  You are also more likely to commit to the process of seeing a marriage therapist when it has had a positive impact on the marriage of someone important to you.

Faith is a factor that is important to many couples seeking to see a marriage therapist.  It is always advised for a couple to assess the role they would like their faith to play in their therapy experience and seek help from a marriage therapist professional that can work with them to emphasize their faith through therapy.

These are some of the most important factors to consider when choosing a marriage therapist.  At Proliance Center, we welcome any questions you might have about marriage therapy and are more than willing to share our philosophies, style, approach, and experiences with you so that you can make an educated, confident decision in choosing your marriage therapist.

Does Marriage Counseling Work If One Partner Won’t Work At The Issues?

A common problem that couples and couples counselors face in marriage counseling occurs when one member of a couple is willing to work on the relationship and the other is not.  Many people may think that if they can’t convince their spouse to join them in marriage counseling, that it won’t work.  Fortunately, this is not always the case.  The approaches in marriage counseling are constantly being redefined to account for challenges and find ways to provide help to those who need it, regardless of their circumstances.  While marriage counseling works best when both partners agree to participate together, there can always be an alternative approach if needed.

At Proliance Center, we approach marriage counseling from a Systems perspective.  What this means is that we believe that although the couple is made up of two individuals, they exist together as a working system, where each individual affects the other.  Similar to the system of a family, when one member makes a change, it changes the dynamic of the whole family, or system.  Therefore, in marriage counseling, the same rules apply.  If one member of the couple makes a positive change, it has the potential to positively change the couple.

It is not uncommon here at Proliance Center for marriage counseling to take place, or at least begin, with just one member of the couple.  In these situations, the therapist works with the individual to help them make positive changes in themselves as well as their approach to their spouse, which can result in a shift in the marital relationship.  Marriage counseling Sessions are often focused on improving individual communication skills, defining goals for the relationship, and addressing how the individual might contribute to existing problems.  What we often find is that the changes the individual makes can either “rub off” on their spouse, or in some cases, be an inspiration to their spouse to begin attending marriage counseling.

The important aspect to recognize is that couples counseling can be provided in a variety of capacities and there is no mandatory structure in order to see results.  Here at Proliance Center, we can assess your needs and work with you based on your capabilities in order to help you make progress and positive changes.  

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